Opposits attract... but do they really?

Every human being has needs, the need to be loved is one of them...

The saying has it that opposits attract but I actually believe that this only applies for magnets, not humans.

If you are a party animal and your partner a couch potatoe, please tell me how you two are going to make it past the first few weeks. Of course in the beginning you adapt yourself to your partner. You just got together. Everything is fresh and new. No need to get into stupid fights about afternoon hobbies just yet... there will be plenty of time for that later.

My boyfriend and me are quite similar when it comes to that matter... I like to stay home somedays, but I also like to go all out and party like a rockstar from time to time. We are almost in perfect harmony with each other. Obviously, we don't always agree on what the plans for the evening are, but we both compromise with each other. One time he decides, one time I decide. It's a give and take.

But there is one thing that is slightly bothering me... I am a very emotional person. I am loud, dramatic and I have a book full of love quotes. I want big proofs of love, I want fights, tears and gifts. I want signs of affection and messages that are so cheesy it makes outsiders want to barf. I want to receive flowers and go on dates...

My boyfriend cares for me, I have no doubts about that... but he is not the type to spontaneously bring me something that reminded him of me when he saw it... he doesn't take me out on romantic dates and he is surely not one to blurt out his feelings in front of the whole wide world, or even in front of him.

So what now? The question is always, how much of yourself should you be giving up for the one you are with. And if you need to change, adapt, does that eventually mean you aren't supposed to be together?

I don't think so... I wouldn't want to date someone identical to me. All the interesting mystery would be gone if I could predict everything.

So I compromise... I take him out on dates, send him silly sweet corny bumper stickers and blog about him so the whole world knows I care.

Opposites are not what attracted me to him... it's his whole person: the characterstics that resemble me, and the ones that don't all. He is the calming pole when I am going all crazy and nervous about something that isn't even worth bothering about, he is my laughter when I am in the worst mood, and he is my shoulder to lean on when once again I think that the whole world is against me.

Those are the opposites that I definitely need in him and adore him for.